Breaking up after 6 months of dating
” But unfortunately, the end of a dating relationship is often full of deception, dishonesty, and disrespect. When you are breaking up with someone, for whatever reason, the best approach is to treat the other person the same way you would want to be treated. No matter how hard you try to be kind, the fact that you want to break up is going to hurt the other person.This is not something to do over the phone, via text messaging, IM, or email. Be courageous and respectful and have your conversation in person and in private.You might want to write down some of your thoughts beforehand. When we’re heartbroken, we tend to make some not-so-great decisions: drinking too much, hooking up with strangers, blaming ourselves or even seeking revenge.
Be prepared for the other person to ask why you’re breaking up with him/her.
D., a clinical psychologist at The Aiki Relationship Institute, warns that “even if there is potential for a friendship after a breakup, there almost invariably needs to be a period of time” before you two can be friends.
“I kept in too much contact with my ex, since our constant communication was an addiction, and therefore, it took me longer to let him go,” says Heather*, a junior at the University of California, Los Angeles.
They agreed with positive statements, such as “I have learned a lot about myself,” “I have grown as a person,” and “I am more goal-oriented.” Kind of like that Britney Spears song, “Stronger.”Sure, you still might want to ruin your ex-partner's life (calm down, Taylor), but at least you'll realize that yours isn't completely over yet.
After about three months, you'll view the experience more positively than when you first broke up and thought you wasted the best years of your life (no, that actually occurred way back in elementary school — nap time, free snacks, stressing about colored pencils — man, we had it good! Interestingly, these results held true whether the person was the dumper or the dumpee.